“God is with the broken-hearted. When your heart breaks, it’s a good thing – the breaking of the heart is what opens it up to the light of Allah. The dunya is designed to break your heart, to crush it.”—Sheikh Hamza Yusuf (via islamicreminders)
Even moreso than bullshit like this, I especially love the people who feel the need to give me useless suggestions. Have you tried hypnotherapy? You should get a dog. Do you know what color your parachute is? You just haven’t found a fulfilling career. You need a vacation. Try these magical crystals I bought online!
Oh gosh. I have heard every single version of this ‘why don’t you just think positive?’ bullshit throughout my whole entire life. First of all, why must everyone be HAPPY all the time? Why can it not be accepted that some people, through their brain wiring, process ‘happiness’ and ‘sadness’ differently, and for some, happiness is not always the default state they’re in? Second of all, I’m chronically depressed; this does not mean that I am NEVER happy or always outwardly agitated. There are lots of things still that bring me joy. Third of all, depression is a real and true thing and trivializing or dismissing it isn’t going to go away no matter how many people are frightened by it. Fourth of all, if someone wants to help me overcome my depression, find a way to go back in time, to erase all the trauma and sexual assault I’ve faced, find a way to go back into my stages of development, rewire my brain and adjust my hormone levels so I’m no longer prone to violent mood swings. Or learn to accept that I am an intense, wonderful person and depression is a part of me, part of what I am, not something to be whisked away or denied or feared.